Yep, you guessed it. I’m going to talk about fashion.
I once said that there are three types of women – those who dress for men, those who dress for other women, and those who dress for themselves. I realise that this mindset is a bit simplistic, in that we usually think of all three at any given time. Sometimes one takes precedence over the others, but they’re all considered in our choice of dress. But the thinking behind it was this – do you dress to attract, to impress / gain approval, or to reflect your personality?
I made that statement primarily because of some – er – bold fashion choices I’ve seen. Coupled with specific types of behaviour, it’s hard not to draw conclusions and pass judgement on other women. (I apologise for my snootiness.)
I admit, there were times when I chose to dress in a way that flatters my figure and attracts more than a little attention. Every girl has her insecurities, and we mask these by making ourselves attractive in whatever way possible. The easiest way we know how is to work on the physical aspects. That’s why we go on crash diets, buy tons of expensive makeup, and wear clothes that make us look or feel ‘sexy’.
There, I said it. As a woman, there is this part of me that wants to be desired, physically and emotionally. Modern culture – specifically advertising and consumerism – has exploited this weakness to our moral detriment. We settle for physical attraction instead of deep spiritual connection. In short, we’ll take what we can get. Affirmation and validation at a very high price, making us – ironically – cheap.
We’ve forgotten the essence of true beauty. It’s not what we wear or how we fix our hair. It’s got something to do with something deeper – it’s about character.
1 Peter 3:3-4
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
Clothes shopping has always been difficult for my unusual frame in Asia (where everyone is about two sizes shorter than I am). But it is now nearly impossible to find a skirt that doesn’t make me feel uncomfortable at its length (or lack thereof). Or tops that don’t have more than the requisite number of holes (which is four, if you’re wondering). To an outsider, it would seem like we are running out of material to make proper clothes. I start to think – what ever happened to modesty in dress?
We hate being restricted and subject to rules or guidelines, especially in something as personal as our wardrobe. What I wear is my business, you may think. Well – yes and no. It is your personal choice, yes. But does it affect only you? No.